jazzmanljg wrote:My three year old started playing the selective hearing card a few months ago. When I would ask him to do something (or not do something) and he would act like I wasn't even there I would just calmly say "Okay, if you're not answering me I better take that toy your playing with because it seems to be distracting you (or turn off that cartoon, or whatever the kid has been doing)". He always responded with "No Dad!" and my comeback was always "Okay you pick, either (do this, stop this, etc.) or I (get your toy, turn off TV, not go to the park, etc.). So far he has always picked what I wanted him to do (with a little huffing and puffing), but I'm sure a 5 year old may give you a little more fight.
That's pretty much what we do with my 3 year old. Or I'll say something like "If you don't do this (i.e. pick up toys) you don't get to read a book before bed." There are two important things when disciplining a child a) you and your wife have to be on the same page and b) if he doesn't pick up his toys or whatever, follow through on your threat. Life will suck for a day but they'll know you mean business and it only takes once, maybe twice before they know you mean business.
Of course the 5 yo could be playing the selective hearing card because it generates more attention to him, whether it's good or bad, kids crave it.