acsguitar wrote:Coppermine wrote:That's why it's better to live together for a few years before getting engaged; something about that ring puts a lot of pressure on a relationship, living together or not. I mean, time has a different meaning as you get older I think... if you're lonely and in your late 30's, you may get married after dating someone for 3 months. Big deal though, almost 60% of marriages end in divorce regardless of how long you live together... it's just better to find out in the first few years before getting married, rather than being married for 3 years and having two kids before deciding you hate each other.
So much for the "sanctity of marriage." Kids are another story. I guess for a lot of people it's a take-em or leave-em sort of thing. A lot of times, people want kids right away, others want to wait. Most of our parents got married young and had us young. Mine were married 10 years before having kids and mom said, unironically, that it was the best decision she ever made.
My mom had me at 34 and my sister at 40...I think they were married 10 years or so before having me but I'm not sure.
Anyways my gf's parents were married at 18 and had been dating since Junior high!!
She had kids at 19...good lord!