chadlincoln wrote:People shouldn't find self-worth because of the things they can or can't do. Outside factors change and can cause a lot of problems too. If a person is only valuable because of what they can do, then just as their perfomance will vary, so will their self worth. Their self worth needs to be built on more than outside activities IMO. I'm not valuable because of my job. I don't have more self-worth because I win my fantasy baseball league. I have value and purpose for other reasons and those don't ever change.Omaha Red Sox wrote:chadlincoln wrote:Where do you suggest these kids find their self-worth?Omaha Red Sox wrote:chadlincoln wrote:I don't think it has to do with them not contributing. After reading the article and some books on this topic, it's more about issues like control and expressing hurt. This happens amoung jr. high students around here. It spreads by word of mouth. They find out someone else tries it so they do. I can't imagine cutting myself to make myself feel better, but if you listen to the Emimen song "Stan", even he writes "Sometimes I even cut myself to see how much it bleeds. It's like adrenaline, the pain is such a sudden rush for me." They need help, but I don't think it's all touchy-feely-tree hugging stuff.Omaha Red Sox wrote:Stupid psycho-babble. People so consumed with themselves and their damn feelings. Contribute to society, you pieces of crap, and you'll feel like you belong somewhere. Man this pisses me off.
My point is, is that people are so focussed on themselves and how they feel all the time. That's psycho-babble. I understand that there are people that can realistically be considered 'depressed', but don't you think that the word is tossed around a bit much? If kids had some self-worth I would imagine they would find more constructive things to do than cut themselves.
Sports, art, reading, writing, work, poetry, music, fishing, etc. There are so many things that kids just don't experience, because they don't find them stimulating. They've been given a TV to sit in front of since they were born.
I didn't suggest those things implying that one must be successful at them. Simply doing something gives one self-worth. Being a part of something. Getting blood flowing or simply feeling a sense of accomplishment, whether you created a masterpiece or raked your yard. Pretty simple philosophy, but it worked for quite a while before kids decided they didn't need to exercise their muscles and minds.