jfg wrote:I appreciate that you continue to take the "what the heck is your problem" approach though. That's awesome of you. I say that I fear for my wife's mental health and you give me that. Typical.
Sorry if you know the obvious, I was simply looking for a different explanation. Because sure, "48 hour work week, big deal" did pop into my head (and obviously yours too
), but I figured I'd ask if there was something more to this story because there's GOT to be more to it. I don't know of anyone who would have a mental breakdown at working 48 hours per week for 4 months. In fact, I know people who would kill for the job (and with 8 of those hours at time and a half to boot!). So yes, there has to be something you're not telling us.
"Typical" - This will be my 5th post in the last year (see for yourself, right there under my profile), so no, not typical at all. I was intrigued by what you left out, so intrigued that I decided to ask what it was.
But since you went all attack mode right off the bat, let's have some fun, shall we? I'd hate to let you down, so let me live up to your wonderful expectations while you look down your nose at me (Gee, maybe that's both of you two's problem right there, you're too good for everyone and everything, no one taught you that life is hard).
jfg wrote:We are both drained but we're fine.
Yeah, 40 hour work weeks plus a kid. Man you guys have tough lives, no one else on this Earth has to do that (or more!
jfg wrote:She can't handle this, she barely has 40 hours a week to give to work let alone 48.
Her priorities are totally out of whack. "Giving" time to work? No, it's more like work first and then see what's left over. Things like a roof over one's head and food trumps anything else, because without that, you're dead, so work comes first. Work isn't something one simply doesn't have time for.
jfg wrote:keeps getting turned down for them because of her law degree and that she's overqualified.
out of law school for 3 years has probably filled out at least 800 applications, been turned down to 799 of them without an interview
Please tell me you're not buying the "overqualified" excuse? Sure, companies give that as the reason on occasion, I've given it myself, but that's not the real reason. Figure out what the real reason is and fix it.
Question that should turn the wheels in your head (if you can handle that it's scum like me asking of course): If she can't handle 48 hour work weeks at a mid-entry level, what makes you think she actually wants or can handle a "real" job?
Frankly sounds to me like she grew up rich and was never taught that life is hard. I'm sure you'll tell me I'm wrong, but it fits, all the way to the looking down your collective noses at "mid-entry level" jobs you currently have that millions of people would kill for.
jfg wrote:I am very afraid for her mental health if she does work almost 50 hours a week over the next 4 months.
Heavens no! 48 hours a week for 4 months! Someone call the cops! Oh wait, you've already checked the labor laws... Shocker!...
jfg wrote: the plan was for her to work and me to stay at home.
How many people's lives go "according to plan"? Maybe 1%?
/funCan we cut the stupid crap and talk now?
I was being honest when asking if there was something you weren't telling us about her. I didn't jump into laughing at you guys, poking fun, insulting, or anything like that. I simply asked if there was more. I am sorry if you took it the wrong way, but that wasn't my intent. Hey, as I said, I'm a guy with a wife and a kid. We've been in the same spot, kind of. We were flat "entry level", no "mid" to it though. Poor. Working as many hours as we could possibly get our hands on (and there are millions of people doing that as we speak, with most complaining that they can't get enough hours). Sure, it was hard, and it stunk. Sometimes we were totally fried. No denying that things early on are tough, especially with a newborn. However, we did what we had to do. Still do as a matter of fact. I can't remember the last week I only worked 48 hours and my wife can't remember the last time she worked that little either. I admit that I'm having trouble understanding why a grown adult cannot handle a 48 hour work week. I am sorry, but it sure sounds like there has to be more to this. You didn't say anything about your mental faculties other than you're "drained", so what's the difference between you and her? Meaning why can you handle it, but she can't? You know her infinitely better than I do. Might be a good place to start in order to figure all of this out, because there has to be more if you are honestly concerned about her well being and not overreacting or something. It isn't normal or natural for someone to lose their mind due to a 48 hour work week. <----- Read that last sentence again, because it cannot get any more true than that. So you need to figure out what the problem actually is, and address it. Make no mistake, there is no easy fix and if you dance around it, ignore it, hope it goes away, or can't figure out what it is, then it won't get any better. I honestly hate to say it, but it sure sounds like it's going to get worse before it gets better in this case. I hope that isn't true, I wish you guys the best, but "hopes" and "wishes" don't mean anything in the real world. It's up to you guys to do the work. I've been sincere in this paragraph and if you still think I'm beneath you, scum, a jerk, or whatever, so be it. I have no need or desire to try to change your mind. I also harbor no grudges and still wish you guys the best.
Yes doctor, I am sick.
Sick of those who are spineless.
Sick of those who feel self-entitled.
Sick of those who are hypocrites.
Yes doctor, an army is forming.
Yes doctor, there will be a war.
Yes doctor, there will be blood.....