GoodOl'Days wrote:He's probably in your section because he was ousted by his own kind, aka a douche. He's probably not mad at you, but still steaming over why he's with you in your dept. Find out what you can about his past in special ops and more reasons why he is here. From there you can either use that against him or have a meeting with him 1 v 1 to explain that you'd like to build an action plan with him, stating goals to be achieved here so he can get there. Make sure to point out specific behaviors to stop, ones to start and ones to begin. Find out and show him your recognize his specific successes and positive traits, then point out his "opportunities". Enforce to him that you want him to achieve his goals and show him how that will help you achieve yours as well. Overall asking questions and then building on that in a nonconfrontational or aggressive manner and setting would be a good place to start.
Money Prediction: you've got to be a guidance counselor of some kind!
GoodOl'Days wrote:He's probably in your section because he was ousted by his own kind, aka a douche. He's probably not mad at you, but still steaming over why he's with you in your dept. Find out what you can about his past in special ops and more reasons why he is here. From there you can either use that against him or have a meeting with him 1 v 1 to explain that you'd like to build an action plan with him, stating goals to be achieved here so he can get there. Make sure to point out specific behaviors to stop, ones to start and ones to begin. Find out and show him your recognize his specific successes and positive traits, then point out his "opportunities". Enforce to him that you want him to achieve his goals and show him how that will help you achieve yours as well. Overall asking questions and then building on that in a nonconfrontational or aggressive manner and setting would be a good place to start.
Money Prediction: you've got to be a guidance counselor of some kind!
Happy Days - that was cut and pasted right out of the manual! Won't work though. 1 - because he is a douche. 2 - because we are the same rank. He won't have time for that. At best, he will politely listen. Then cuss-grumble me as he walks off. I'm gonna wing it today and take a positive attitude into it, but lay the law down. This shizzle is gonna stop.
another good idea is to ask him to repeat himself...nothing is more annoying than someone saying "huh?" or "can you repeat that?" after you say something...also if he gets upset it's another opportunity for the calm down tactic
I was gonna say FU man chu to Mookie, but that was hurtful, Art.
Has anyone advised you just to calm down? It's not a big deal.
Oh, I am calm now. But make no mistake. It is a big deal. Imagine if your subordinates were constantly talking poorly about you, your boss, the mission. Then imagine they were doing it in front of everyone else. Not only does it undermine the operation, it makes everyone else miserable who are simply trying to do their job and perform their best in support of the unit goals.
I don't know - if you think it isn't a big deal, maybe I didn't paint the picture well enough. If you were talking about me being from Jersey - no. I took that as a joke and that isn't a big deal. Though Jersey does suck.
Anyway, I got stuck in meetings all day (and prepping for them), so I didn't get to talk to Focker. Once I do, I'll report back.
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