There are two girls involved with this problem. "Girl A" and "Girl B" Heres their backround:
Girl A is a girl I have known for the past few years, but until recently we have barely known each other. Last semester I had two classes with her, and we would hang out, go to school basketball games in the winter, and she came to my baseball games in the spring. I really liked her, but she has always had a boyfriend who graduated last year.
Girl B is a girl who I have met about a month ago, and have been talking to alot over the past few weeks. It felt like I just got over Girl A as me and Girl B went on several dates, and hung out multiple times. Me and Girl B are starting to become serious.
Heres where the pickle comes into play:
Last night Girl A called me in tears as she and her boyfriend finally called it quits. Girl A who I still have yet to gotten over was saying things such as "Why couldnt I have had a boyfriend more like you?" or "Whoever it is when you end up with is a very lucky girl." Now I was not dumb when listening to these quotes as I realized that she was very mad at her boyfriend, and just looking for a rebound guy. I just figured this would all go away by tomorrow. Unfortuantely, this morning I was awoken by a phone call from Girl A. She claimed to have just seen me driving on the road or something I dont know it seemed like an excuse to start a conversation. It ends up she said that she has no plans tonight and gets off of work at 3. I told her I would call her after my baseball practice.
Meanwhile...
Girl B is leaving me a message on my away message explaining what she would like to do this evening. She would like to go see a movie and then hot tubbing again. Which is always fun. As I get off the phone with Girl A and go to check my away message I realize what an interesting pickled situatuion I have found myself in.
Both Girl A and B are extremely good looking, and a decision can not be made on that factor. Girl A is much smarter although Girl B is fun to be around, and can always make you laugh. I have liked Girl A pretty much all semester and have known Girl B for a month or so.
So the question is what do i do? Do I hang out with both? How about tonight what do I do? And what do I do in the long run?
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Is this high school?? I would also like to know whether A knows about B. You mentioned that you are becoming serious with B. How serious?? I know that a lot of emotions come into play here but you know that you have a good thing with B. You don't know what will happen with A if you take it to the next level. If you try dating both, be honest with them or you will get burned.
For now, I think you should hang out with both. You're not married to them, right...or else they'd be WifeA and WifeB - then it would be an HBO show...
Without knowing anything other than what you've written...long-term, I'd likely choose the smarter girl provided it isn't a rebound "we're getting back together" kinda thing.
BaseballFann0008 wrote:A and B do not know each other, yes its high school and both go to my school
Then it all depends on how each of you feel about it. Timing is everything and B has dibs. If you agree that you can date both and you want to do that, go for it.
Invite Girl A to the hottub with you and Girl B. Worst case scenerio is they get mad, and you wait for Girl C, best case scenerio is...well, I think you can imagine what it is.
BaseballFann0008 wrote:A and B do not know each other, yes its high school and both go to my school
I have two answers to this situation. One is serious, the other not so much. You be the judge on which is which:
Answer 1: Even if this is an extremely large school it will get back to these two that you are seeing both of them. Once that happens you're screwed and not in a good way, so dating both is NOT an option.
I would be wary of Girl A – the rebound thing is a big concern here. What kind of girl is she? Does she date a lot of guys? Has she always been with a guy? Is she calling you because she wants to be with youor just with a guy? If you’re not getting the vibe that she wants to be with YOU, then you need to steer clear of this one.
Girl B sounds nice. She’s interested in you and you seem to like hanging around her. Since she’s been in the picture from the beginning of this scenario, I’d suggest exploring this option first. If it doesn’t pan out then maybe you could go back to the other girl. The thing is, if you dump Girl B for Girl A and it doesn’t pan out, Girl B has a much more legitimate gripe against you and may not be an option in the future. If you go with Girl B, then Girl A’s ability to gripe is lower since you’re already kind of seeing another girl.