...as that famous song by the J. Geils Band says. Just found out my wife has been having an affair for the last 5 or months (she doesn't know I know yet). We've been together for 10 years and married for 7 years. She had 3 children when we met and I ended up adopting all 3 of them and we have a 2 year old son of our own (our daughters age 22 and 18 no longer live at home and our 13 year old son still lives with us). I'm not going to let her know I know until I can see a lawyer and get an interim custody order so I can take the boys away from her and kick her out of the house. As far as permanent custody goes, her parents, her brothers and sister, and our 2 daughters are all prepared to testify on my behalf that she is an unfit mother and that I should have permanent custody of both boys - she has no one to back her up (although she expressed to our oldest daughter that she doesn't want custody and would be happy to see the boys every other weekend, apparently so they don't interfer with her social life as she likes to drink and party). Boy, ya think ya know someone!
I'm trying to decide how to let her know when I get the legal documents - I was thinking of serving the documents at work in a very loud voice to embarass her. I was also thinking of taking all her clothes and toiletries and dumping them on her boyfriend's lawn and then let him know he can have her fat a** and good riddance to her. We live in a small town, so I was also thinking of spreading the word about her behavior so as to tarnish her image in town (I'll be moving back to Calgary when I can sell our acreage). I'm also gonna be nasty and demand child support from her.
Anyone else have any good suggestions as to how to handle this - I want to make this as hard on her as possible.
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Sorry about your situation. I really can't offer any good advice, but I would suggest keeping your kids in mind before you do anything too rash. She may be a bad person but it is still their mom.
stomperrob wrote:As far as permanent custody goes, her parents, her brothers and sister, and our 2 daughters are all prepared to testify on my behalf that she is an unfit mother and that I should have permanent custody of both boys - she has no one to back her up (although she expressed to our oldest daughter that she doesn't want custody and would be happy to see the boys every other weekend, apparently so they don't interfer with her social life as she likes to drink and party).
Talk about having the table stacked against you...
I can't pretend to be in your situation, but being a child of a divorced couple, my sagest advice would be to make the whole process as smooth and quiet as possible if only because anything else makes it that much harder for the kids to deal with.
Wow, that sucks. I'd seriously consider punching my wife in the face if I ever found out she was having an affair. Everything you've done for her and she goes and disrespects you like that. I feel for you. Good luck. Hopefully you get the kids. They deserve a stable household.
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I can only echo what the others said about making it smooth so that it's easy for the kids. You can be sure that if you do anything rash she will bring it up to try to show that you're not a fit parent.
That sucks man, sorry to hear about it. I would also avise against anything rash since the courts favor the mother in these situations. It is very hard the father to get custody, if the mother wants to fight him for it. But if you decide to do something rash I suggest, emptying her shampoo and replacing it with Nare
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by stomperrob » Wed Oct 26, 2005 1:24 pm 
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